When in a relationship or a getting to know you situation with a guy (in my case it is a guy because I am straight but it could be a girl or a guy), when it comes down to meeting the family, just be yourself. Also, know this, if the guy you are talking to does not want to introduce you to his family, that is not good, someone who truly likes you should want to introduce you to their family. If they do not, that is something not cool, and might be a relationship breaker. They should be proud to have you as a part of their life and be happy and excited to show you off and introduce you to friends and family, tell friends and family all about you. If it comes time to meeting the family, know that if he likes you a lot and has told his family about you and his friends, for his sake if they care about him, they would likely be interested in getting to know you and would like you. If you are a good person and you are yourself. If a close famliy member does not like you, let's say a sibling or parents. Know this, if they just absolutely do not like you and can find no reasons to like you, and are simply disrespectful, then I guess my way of going about it would be to end the relationship because thats family, that sibling or parent and you cannot spend your whole life feeling as if you have this unability to be liked by someone whose so important to the one you love, it might strain their relationship and I could not ask that of someone I truly like and care about. I saw a movie about it, "Monster In Law", the mother of the fiance, the male, could not accept the female he loved even though she made him happy, she could not accept her. In the end the fiance female saw the mother who could not like her's in law who did not like her and realized that kind of a relationship with a mother in law was not something she could live with for the rest of her life and the best thing was to leave the relationship which in the end made the mother in law realize it too and accept her but in real life if that happens I think to consider leaving the relationship because they, the guy you like and his parents and siblings should be close and their relationships being good is important.
Some quotes I loved from Monster In Law.
"Charlotte 'Charlie' Cantilini: And about the holidays...
Viola Fields: Are you gonna keep me away?
Charlotte 'Charlie' Cantilini: You must be present for every Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthday, school play, clarinet recital, and soccer game in our kids' lives. I want you to love them, and spoil them and teach them things that Kevin and I can't. Like how to throw a right hook for example. I want you there, Viola. I do, up front and center. From this point i will not negotiate.
Ruby: Damn, that girl can give a nice little speech! "
(So true, if you are married or getting married to someone and you two have kids, I think having the mother of your hubby around for your kids and holidays is very important and I think the relationship you have with her is important too, for his sake, if you care about a guy you should try to get along with his mother, but if she just doesnt like you no matter what, then maybe its time to sever the relationship for the sake of her relationship with her son and for your own self worth.)
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